We are all so busy it seems. Busy, busy, busy. At least that is what we all tell each other. All of the time. Our children are on the hockey team, or very dedicated to learning the piano. We are putting in long hours at work or home, and so is our spouse, to help keep a comfortable standard of living. It is easy to fall into a routine of just seeing each other at pick up and drop off, without really having much of a meaningful conversation, or moment. For some reason, we think of everything being the extreme in our time. Our parents, and grandparents, were just as busy. However, they did not have some of the great resources that we have today to stay connected, and bonded with our family during our busiest of times. Below are a handful of tips to keep in mind for when you just feel like you need a better plan.
- Have a date: Dates are not just for our partners! Have family dates, no excuse. Plan a day and time to consistently have a special activity together. Friday night pizza parties are classic. Make it a movie night with popcorn and snacks, or board games as well. Do what is right for your family. Just make sure to regularly plan these “dates”. Weekly, or monthly do what works for your lifestyle. This routine will slowly become the norm and everyone will fall in line.
- Ask questions: Make sure that when you are busy driving your children around to their various afterschool sports teams that you have a meaningful discussion with them. Now is a great time. They literally cannot escape you as you are in a moving vehicle. Remember to ask open ended questions. No yes/no questions. You want to see what they are thinking and feeling. These little moments together can let you into their world.
- Help someone else: If your kids are old enough, join a volunteer organization together. Nothing will bring you and your kids together like helping out someone in need. There are so many amazing organizations out there. A simple Google search will lead you to many deserving places in your local area. You can make it a family decision and look together.
What you do is not as important as doing it. Make sure that you consciously make time to connect with your spouse and child(ren). Being “busy” is not a good excuse. It is lame. Put the effort in to be present with your family. You will be very happy once you do!
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